The wider the inner-child’s wound-gaping is, consistently we compromise & abandon ourselves in adult relationships.
Compromising ourselves can often come from a need to make others happy.
We need to figure out with rational reality - at the cost of self-abandonment, why are we inclined to please others?
The faulty fear of being worthless/unlovable/unaccepted/rejected/ridiculed makes us control others.
Through caretaking/submission/prioritizing others, we resort to controlling how they feel/behave towards us ➡️ to give us the love, acceptance & validation that we NEED to give our selves.
In the process of compromising our authentic self, we’re clueless about our heart’s passions & dreams.
As it would have, we develop deep-seated resentment for our partners as we lose touch with ourselves to make them happy.
Orphaning our heart, we never seem to get what we want.
It is a cosmic cue that we’re going after the wrong things.
Wholeheartedly, we NEED to surrender the love (we have for partner/family/friends) toward ourselves.
What about trying to spend ‘me time’ with our inner-child?
Or we could begin by writing a diary about our emotions!
We can make a list of our accomplishments or champion ourselves in every baby step to self-love!
Just seizing a little time going slow & silent would bring us closer to our inner children...