Updated: Dec 23, 2020
Emotional abandonment is a subjective emotional state in which people feel undesired, left behind, insecure, or discarded.
People experiencing emotional abandonment may feel at a loss, cut off from a crucial source of sustenance that has been withdrawn, either suddenly, or through a process of erosion.
“In every adult, there lurks a childan eternal child, something that is always becoming is never completed and calls for unceasing care, attention and education. That is the part of the human personality which wants to develop and become whole.”
Subconsciously we dwell on the unprocessed emotions (wounded inner-child) of growing up years in day to day life. As early attatchment dynamic sets up the rules, unconscously the inner-child runs the show for us!
Maybe we had a parent/primary caregiver who was emotionally unavailable and failed to meet our psychological/emotional need as a child...or we experienced a traumatic loss...or faced heartbreaking rejection.
Our adult self, as the inner-child parent, needs to bear witness to the trauma of the inner-child.
First and foremost, we need to -retrieve, -connect, -listen, -acknowledge, and -validate pain of the inner child.
Healing begins as and when we understand the handicap of our parents/caregivers with loving compassion.
Step by step, we move towards forgiving the source of hurt and our adult SELF for neglecting and abandoning the inner child.
In our adult relationships, we project the same unprocessed abandonment issues on our partner.
The expectation of fulfilment of an inner need from an outer source leads us to become clingy or detached. Somehow we get caught in self-desertion and engage emotionally unavailable mate.
It could also lead us to raise a fence around feeling emotions to ward off the fear of rejection.
Also, our tolerance threshold towards toxic behavior elevates.
It also leads us to become people-pleasers just to get crumbs of love and affection.
In every scenario, being unaware of inner chaos and not taking responsibility for our feelings, we split from ourselves (soul fragmentation).
We overlook that LOVE is our core...as we’re an embodiment of divine love.
Elementally, our exhale is unconditional love!
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