Updated: Mar 16
'Poisonous pedagogy, also called black pedagogy, is a concept by which present-day psychologists and educators distance themselves from child-raising methods that were propagated in previous centuries.
Poisonous pedagogy is therefore meant as an unequivocally negative term.
It is an umbrella concept encompassing behaviours and communications that have a strongly manipulative or violent character, such as corporal punishment.'
Poisonous pedagogy aims to break the will, the mightiest mechanism, of an independent/stubborn/willful child.
It is behind-the-door bullying using a civilised check to control the growth of an immature innocent.
Poisonous pedagogy slays & splits soul.
Instilling shame for being who we are, (severing a compliant child’s growth to suit the perpetuator’s lives) is its ulterior motive.
It results in false beliefs like :
‘It must be me’
‘I am not enough’
‘I am not good enough’
’I don’t belong’
'Something is wrong with me'
'I'm not lovable'
‘I’m a mistake’
‘I don’t like me’
‘I hate myself’
‘I don’t matter’
‘I’m ashamed to be seen’
According to its primitive perception, the developing child formulates (supervised by manager/controller SELVES) various strategies, including shapeshifting, to please the source figures to be ‘seen’, ‘accepted & belonged’ and maybe ‘loved’.
The way he/she perceived love’ (always conditional) & ‘to be loved’ becomes a standard for future factors.
In this process, the young one loses track of its innate psychic uniqueness.
🤔 ‘Who am I’ hardly ever crosses the muddled minds…
The healing-process is - confront childhood traumas, understand the attachment-styles & unmask the FALSE selves’ mask we put on as a shield to protect core vulnerabilities, accept & embrace the authentic SELF.
The much-needed step is to reassure ourselves -
'I'm safe & unconditionally loved in being me' 🙌🏼