😑 ripen regression

Age regression: a defence mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more adaptive way. The defence mechanism of regression, in psychoanalytic theory, occurs when an individual's personality reverts to an earlier stage of development, adopting more childish mannerisms.

-Sigmund Freud

One of the resistance means we adopt to get what we want & cope with panic/fear is – age regression.

The regression behaviour could be in many permutation & combination of fight-flight-freeze (a natural reaction to danger).

Becoming emotionally unavailable

Trash talking to get your way

Stone-walling

Silent treatment

Replaying toxic parents/caregivers

Ghosting

Crying

Feeling like punching someone or something

Hurling things at the wall

Clenched jaw

Grind your teeth

Glare at people

Talk to them with anger in your voice

Stomping/kicking/breaking things

Intense anger/rage

Feel like killing someone, perhaps even yourself

Stomach tied in knots

Burning in stomach

Difficulty breathing

An increase in heart palpitations

Shortness of breath

Muscle tension (shoulders, traps, chest, neck, jaw)

Feeling hot or flush

Headaches

Nauseous

Diarrhoea

Tingling in fingers or toes

Tunnel vision

etc are many ways we replay early years resistance behaviours.

Instead of being scared by the above-mentioned hijack selves, we need compassion towards them as they are only carrying their assigned duties. These looked down upon behaviours are ‘guardians’ that had saved us from heartbreak/depression when we were vulnerable and defenceless.

Self-compassion & inner-work (why?) is the way to break this vicious cycle of self-sabotage.

Therapy, breathwork, mediations/chanting, grounding exercises are practices to turn to.

😍 🤗 Love is all there is, first and foremost towards our selves.

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