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Age regression: a defence mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more adaptive way. The defence mechanism of regression, in psychoanalytic theory, occurs when an individual's personality reverts to an earlier stage of development, adopting more childish mannerisms.
One of the resistance means we adopt to get what we want & cope with panic/fear is – age regression.
The regression behaviour could be in many permutation & combination of fight-flight-freeze (a natural reaction to danger).
Becoming emotionally unavailable
Trash talking to get your way
Replaying toxic parents/caregivers
Feeling like punching someone or something
Hurling things at the wall
Grind your teeth
Glare at people
Talk to them with anger in your voice
Feel like killing someone, perhaps even yourself
Stomach tied in knots
Burning in stomach
An increase in heart palpitations
Shortness of breath
Muscle tension (shoulders, traps, chest, neck, jaw)
Feeling hot or flush
Tingling in fingers or toes
etc are many ways we replay early years resistance behaviours.
Instead of being scared by the above-mentioned hijack selves, we need compassion towards them as they are only carrying their assigned duties. These looked down upon behaviours are ‘guardians’ that had saved us from heartbreak/depression when we were vulnerable and defenceless.
Self-compassion & inner-work (why?) is the way to break this vicious cycle of self-sabotage.
Therapy, breathwork, mediations/chanting, grounding exercises are practices to turn to.
😍 🤗 Love is all there is, first and foremost towards our selves.