The inner child knocks...

Updated: Feb 15

She’s relentless, consistent in her pursuit to get back home.

She’ll keep on knocking the door until you open and accept, embrace her with love.

The traits we form, accept and own to get external love, validation, acceptance, adoration from ‘others’ is put under the label of good and our 'owned SELVES'.

But along with it, as duality is the law of the universe, an exact opposite of that trait or personality is also birthed.

This is our "shadow or disowned SELF".

Also whoever we disapprove of, hate and point fingers at are our own projected 'shadow/disowned/unaccepted SELVES'.


We disown, repress, judge, ban, ridicule and shun it away from our lives because it's ugly, dark, wrong and downtrodden.

Our righteousness and fear of being judged by others keep us from owning it!

The more we push it away with our labelling and resistance, the harder will be its effort to be accepted in our lives!

The banished child returns home with vengeance and entitlement for its right place.

This is where she was birthed, this where she belongs, this is where she'll stay!


For e.g., if I have chosen to be an ‘honest’ person, the traits of dishonesty are running right under it repressed and unaccepted.

So we’ll keep on meeting dishonest people in our journey.

Also, we need to contemplate on where are WE being ‘dishonest’ and putting it under the carpet…


This soul searching is brutal and hits us below the belt!

I am THAT whatever I’m condemning and pointing finger at!

It had been ME all along...

That energy/psyche is our banished inner child who is desperately seeking to get back ‘home’ to its ‘parents’ and loved unconditionally as she is.

Our heart is its ‘HOME’ and we are its 'PARENTS'!

The child’s been roaming for alms of being validated, accepted, loved, cherished, validated, cherished and loved unconditionally by OTHERS…


Sitting in silence and interrogating ourselves...who is inside me that wants external validation?

In what ways have I not acknowledged and met my needs?

In what ways have I neglected, abandoned, lost myself?

In what ways I'm not accepting my internal struggle of guilt & shame?

In what ways am I judging and condemning OTHERS?


She’s your child, a younger YOU desperately seeking to return home i.e. your heart.

Open the door to her, embrace and hold her in your arms and let her bask in your unconditional love!

She’s safe now.

She can rest now.

She can be herself now.

YOU integrate with YOU


She's home now.





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